The Path of LEAST Resistance and the Matthew Effect

In life we often play it safe or choose the path of least resistance and for a long time I genuinely thought that our lives was the sum of our choices and the overarching attitude or perspective. However, there is the temptation to shield ourselves, wrap our kids in cottonwood and in our effort to prevent something bad happening we can stop anything good happening. A recurring theme in my new book, Subsequently Inevitable is the importance of getting out of our comfort zone to spark our spiritual growth.
The main character is Summer, who seems to bounce from one bad situation to another, with a string of relationships to match. In this book, we get to see the alternative outcome for each of Summer’s decisions. More specifically, we find out how Summer’s life pans out if she stays in each relationship. But how do we which relationships to fight for, and where do we muster the courage to chase our dreams? How do we get out of our comfort zone without being overtly reckless? Do bold choices necessarily lead to dire straits, or does fear have far worse consequences?
My grandparents, who were married for 60 years and achieved a lot in life used to say when it comes love go for one who feels like home that you can let your guard down and feel supported, because looks fade, passion dies and grand gestures grow tiresome. When it comes to career, do what scares you because it will be the rewarding.
Last year, I made a bold decision to go back to uni and complete a masters degree. I hadn’t studied in 17 years and life was much different then - for starters, I was 3 kids lighter. The only thing I had to go by was an intuition that it was the right path for me, plus a belief I could pull it off.
I learnt a lot last year about that sense of belief and how it is the most powerful influence on success, but also the willingness to try. It is called the Matthew - Effect and it essentially describes how the rich get richer and the poor get poorer, meaning the more a person believes or doesn’t believe in their own ability it creates their reality - the gap gets wider. In fact, kids often form their self belief before they turn 10 and gradually it becomes cemented in place unless significant effort is undertaken to shift it.
In my book, there’s always excuses, distractions and outside influences, but when Summer learns to listen to her inner voice and a take a chance on herself things fall into place, but never neatly, there’s always a trade off because life never fits neatly in a box. In essence, her only barrier is herself because we always get what we settle for.
If you have already read my book and enjoyed it, I’d love it if you left me a review and recommended it to your friends. Remember, it is definitely recommended for mature readers as the content is explicit at times.

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